How do you respond to someone offering you food during a traditional meal time? When I was working last week, I sat with some people while they ate lunch. One woman asked me a couple times if I wanted some of her salad because “there is too much here.”
While offering some of your food is a considerate, warm thing to do, it can cause a person with Crohns disease or ulcerative colitis to feel uncomfortable. I, personally, don’t know how to react. I never want to come off rude. I want him/her to understand that it isn’t the food (or them) that I am rejecting. I also want someone to know that I appreciate them offering.
Now that I am more open with my situation, a lot of the times I want to just be honest but I am not sure if it is too much information. I see how much easier life is when the people I am with understand my situation and let me do my own thing. It has been a breath of fresh air these past six months or so to feel like I didn’t have to automatically start being secretive when I am around people.
I think not being quite sure how to react in this type of situation comes back to me never wanting to seem like a downer or illness- focused in anyway. I thought about revealing a little about my situation the third time salad was offered to me but I figured maybe next time. Don’t want to turn a nice offer into a sad story. But then I think, if this person knew, she wouldn’t care, she would understand as much as she could, and we would go about the day.
What are some of your thoughts about this? How much do you tell someone about your situation if you are in a food setting?
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